Showing posts with label culture shock. Show all posts
Showing posts with label culture shock. Show all posts

Monday, March 29, 2021

My heart still races when I relive those moments

 

At first, I observed the Maasai from afar—my fellow orientees and I sat on canvas safari chairs in the shade of giant fig trees and listened to an American anthropologist’s lectures on the Maasai culture.

 

During that phase of orientation, I associated with the Maasai, ever so slightly, because several men worked as our night guards. (See the photo below; the head guard, John, wears the suit.) Since they did not speak my language and I didn’t speak theirs, mostly I nodded politely and kept my distance.

 

Because the Maasai needed money, the women asked us to hire them to scrub laundry in the little stream beside our camp. One day a handful of Maasai women came to camp with a gift—they danced and sang for us in their unique traditional way—but I stood back and watched. Only Chrissie danced with them—bless her heart. Looking back now, I wish I’d followed Chrissie’s example, but I stood back and remained an observer.

 

Then one day our head guard, John, invited some of us to his home for tea. After a fifteen-minute walk across the desert, we spotted his manyatta, a cluster of seven or eight huts enclosed within a thick wall of thorn bushes that kept wild animals out at night. The Maasai kept their goats and cattle inside the wall at night so manure littered their yard.

 

John’s children played in the yard, too, their faces dotted with tenacious flies. They walked up within inches of me, heads bowed—this was their way of asking me to bless them by touching their heads. I could no longer stand at a distance.

 

I reached out and touched their little heads and gave them their blessing but, looking back on it, I’m sure I received the bigger blessing.

 

Maasai women build their homes—squat, rectangular, dome-shaped huts about six and a half feet tall. They make both walls and roofs out of sticks covered with sun-dried cow dung and mud.

 

John led our group of twelve wazungu through a narrow door about four feet tall.

 

Dave and I watched the first few people follow John. When it was our turn, we bent down and stooped inside.

 

Suddenly blackness enveloped me, and I caught my breath. Outside, we had stood in intense equatorial sunshine, but when I ducked through that little door, the sheer darkness shocked me.

 

Immediately I received another surprise: in front of me, within about two feet of the doorway, I came face to face with a wall.

 

I gasped, jerking backward, ever so slightly, back toward the light. . . .

 

All these years later my heart still races when I relive those moments. I can still feel how startled I was, how disoriented, when I entered John’s home. I remember the choking, strangling anxiety, the panic, the need to turn and run away.

 

I was experiencing culture shock: “A state of anxious confusion experienced by someone exposed to an alien or unfamiliar environment,” according to American Heritage Dictionary.

 

There in that desert in southwestern Kenya, I needed to learn that God, “is Lord of the desert. Make that your desert,” writes Chuck Swindoll.

 

“The most precious object of God's love is His child in the desert,” Chuck continues.

 

“If it were possible, you mean more to Him during this time than at any other time. . . . You are His beloved student taking his toughest courses. . . . He loves you with an infinite amount of love.

 

“Jesus walked through the desert first. He felt its heat. He endured its loneliness. He accepted its obscurity. He faced down Satan himself while the desert winds howled. And you can be sure He will never, ever forget or forsake the one who follows Him across the sand.” (From Great Days with The Great Lives, by Charles R. Swindoll)

 

Thank God for that! I was not alone in my desert!



 

Monday, May 11, 2020

Culture shock can really mess you up: "Even the stars are not familiar"


You might ask, “Why did you have to take an orientation course?”

The answer: Because cross-cultural living can make a person—

baffled,

confused, 

bamboozled,

stymied,

discouraged,

befuddled,

and even angry.

Cross-cultural living can leave a person disoriented. My friend Ryan Murphy, teacher at Rift Valley Academy in Kenya, points out that when you move to a different hemisphere, “even the stars are not familiar.” (All That You Can’t Leave Behind: A Rookie Missionary’s Life in Africa.)

Culture shock. It’s real. It can immobilize newcomers.  

It can even lead to deep depression and other mental health struggles.

Culture shock can make people fail in what they set out to do—it can make them flee, hurry back home where life and culture make sense.

But orientation courses can help newcomers survive countless changes and challenges.

Our course, called Kenya Safari, helped us make sense of our new settings, to adjust and flourish.  (See our “classroom” in the photos.)

It equipped us and our fellow new missionaries transition into the work we came to do.

And—this is crucial—our orientation taught us expatriates to respect and value the culture new to us, to understand the importance of not offending the host country’s people—our new coworkers and neighbors (see last week’s post, NEVER say “_ _ _ _ _ pack”).

Our classroom under giant sycamore trees


Throughout our course, we learned to:

listen,

observe,

stretch our thinking,

and, perhaps most important: scrutinize our assumptions.

We had frequent opportunities to stand back and examine our American ways.

And many times the African way seemed better than ours.

My husband, Dave, and I often said to one another, “We Americans have much to learn from Africans.”

Our Kenya Safari was a gift of God’s grace and mercy
providing tangible answers to often-urgent prayers. 

It blessed our lives beyond measure and changed us forever.

A page from my scrapbook



Be sure to come back next week and meet Sheryl O’Bryan.

She’ll share thoughts on transitioning—a process she calls being in the Groan Zone—with everyday examples all of us can understand.

Perhaps you’re transitioning into a new job, or moving to a new city, or changing churches.

Maybe you’re transitioning into marriage. Or into an empty nest.

Or maybe you’re considering missions work, either short-term or long-term.

Most of us go through numerous changes in life so you will appreciate Sheryl’s rich wisdom—it will help you brace yourself plan ahead for your inevitable Groan Zone.

No matter what’s happening in your life, 
you’ll find good stuff in Sheryl’s message!

C’mon back next week.